jquery - How to get Ajax into a theme - without writing a plugin? in WordPress

Put those add_action functions in your functions.php file too. If they're in header.php , WordPress never registers them since header isn loaded in AJAX. Also, you don need that is_admin() check. The theme's header will never load in admin. So, your functions file should look like this:

add_action('wp_ajax_my_special_action', 'my_action_callback');
add_action('wp_ajax_nopriv_my_special_action', 'my_action_callback');
function my_action_callback() { $whatever = $_POST['whatever']; $whatever += 10; echo 'whateverw equals: ' . $whatever; die();
}

And the beginning of that part of your theme's header file should look like this:

<?php
$_ajax = admin_url('admin-ajax.php');
?>
<script type="text/javascript" >
jQuery(document).ready(function($) {

Other than that, your code looks like it's good to go!